Howdo you free yourself from "should"?
那样你要怎么样从“应该”中解脱出来呢？
Whenyou hear yourself say "should":
当你听到自己说“应该”的时候：
evaluatewhat you really mean. Do you really mean that you are addressing an obligationor expectation that is worthwhile for you to do right now? Or is this some oldmental model you have in your head about you, who you"should" be and what you "should" be doing, that maybe isn't worthclinging to?
判断一下你真的想表达的意思。你是不是真的想要表达值得你立刻去做的义务或期望呢？或者，这是不是只不过你脑海里的某些旧的思维模式，关于你“应该”是什么样子，你“应该”干什么，而这类旧的模式或许并不值得坚守呢？
曹老师好，
1.“who you "should" be and what you "should"be doing”是old mentalmodel 的同位语从句，是吗？
2.黄色that引导的是限制性定语从句，只不过由于有同位语从句在先，所以才被逗号隔开放到最后？不然不应该被逗号隔开？
谢谢老师。
你的理解基本正确。只不过红色部分是，some old mental model you have in your head about you 这个名词词组的同位语，而不止是some old mental model的同位语。同理，后面的that从句的先行词也是 some old mental model you have in your head about you。这种定语从句为多重定语从句，some old mental model被限制性定语从句you have in your head about you修饰（省略了that), 然后 some old mental model you have in your head about you整体作为先行词，再被限制性定语从句 that maybe isn't worth clinging to 修饰。因为中间有非限制性同位语，同位语用逗号分隔。